Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close. The following twenty questions are designed to help you decide whether or not you need Al-Anon:

1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks? ____

2. Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking? ____

3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking? ____

4. Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking, to please you? ____

5. Do you blame the drinker's behavior on his or her companions? ____

6. Are plans frequently upset, or cancelled, or meals delayed because of the drinker? ____

7. Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you "? ____

8. Do you secretly try to smell the drinker's breath? ____

9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout? ____

10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behaviour? ____

11. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking? ____

12. Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse? ____

13. Do you search for hidden alcohol? ____

14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking? ____

15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety? ____

16. Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to control the drinker? ____

17. Do you think that, if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved? ____

18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker? ____

19. Do you feel angry, confused or depressed most of the time? ____

20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems? ____

If you have answered 'yes' to three or more of these questions, Al-Anon or Alateen may help. Click here for meeting locations

Reprinted with permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.,
Virginia Beach, VA